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Turning the loneliness outward


Lonely people sometimes let their loneliness consume them. They become hermitlike, shunning contact with others. They ensure that their loneliness becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, a never-ending static state.

Other lonely people turn their loneliness outward, turn it into venom that they direct at others. The lonely people hurt other people around them in what seems like an effort to interact, but which really is just an effort to drive them away. The lonely people want to remain lonely, because it’s all they know. So they lash out at the people around them, to ensure that their loneliness remains undisturbed.

Like this person, in his overly-detailed relating of a confrontation with a drunken woman. Much of what he said is true. But it was mean to say it. A polite person would have simply ignored the drunken person, instead of trying to prove a point to someone who couldn’t hear the message anyway.

Sometimes the point, no matter how valid, simply doesn’t need to be made, especially if it involves direct confrontation. What was resolved by his confrontation with another person? Nothing. What was learned, by either party? Nothing. There was no reason for it.

Except that he was lonely, and he needed to vent his venom. So he did.

And now he is still lonely, and still full of venom.

  1. Sweetie Pie permalink
    2013-08-28T12:47:30+00:00 12:47

    I think I’m like that. Not to that extreme, but… yes… I am.


    • 2013-08-28T13:51:53+00:00 13:51

      No, you’re just too smart for your own good. Human males are intimidated by smart women. And smart-ass women. ;-) Double jeopardy, for you.


      • Sweetie Pie permalink
        2013-08-29T09:40:33+00:00 09:40

        But it’s not a personal growing strategy to be blaming others now, is it…. :)


      • 2013-08-29T09:42:57+00:00 09:42

        It certainly seems to work for Obama. ;->


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